train up a child

We all know adults who are difficult to deal with, well it may very well be that they were trained to act like they do from a very young age. I knew a married couple who were both dysfunctional because of how they were raised, they had three kids and they trained them to have a dysfunctional childhood. I could see what was coming and I tried to intervene but they were too far gone and not open to change. Abnormal people think they are just fine. It's everyone else that has problems.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Notice the text, it does not say train up a child in the truth, it says "in the way he should go". The parents decide the way the child should go, they determine what the "truth" is. I grew up in a dysfunctional home, my parents demanded honesty but they had no boundaries of morality. My grandfather was just like my dad, honest but no rules of morality. My parents trained me up in the way they wanted me to go and I never departed from it. I made a lot of people angry but I was only living the way I was raised to live. I was in a quandary, do I live the way I was trained to live or conform to the way of the people I made mad. One night I got saved and filled with the Holy Ghost. I knew something in me changed and I didn't know what it was at the time. I couldn't identify it at first, I just felt a love I have never known in my life.
1 Thessalonians 4:1 ... you have received of us how you ought to walk and to please God. so you would abound more and more.
The more I learned of Jesus, the more I wanted to please Him. No one has ever loved a dog like me, like He did. His divine presence began to influence my attitude, I wanted to be like Him. I never knew a role model like Him, I always tried to act nice but it was just an act. It became easier and easier to act like Him because He imparted His grace into my life. No one can act like Christ apart from His grace. At first I didn't understand this but as I renewed my mind I became in tune with Him. No one can act like Jesus and be dysfunctional, but most people don't understand the peculiar demeanor.
1 Corinthians 15:10 I am what I am by the grace of God.
The antidote for dysfunction is grace. But one must want to change because He gives His grace only to the humble. It is very difficult for some people to admit they are out of the main stream of decency. Most people know they are "jerks" and they expect people to accept them as they are. Dysfunction begins in the home and it follows the children when they leave that home. Over the years I have worked with other dysfunctional people and we messed things up for ourselves and each other. Dysfunctional people have no honor, they think mostly of themselves.
2 Corinthians 5:17 When a man be in Christ, he is a new creature, old things are passed away.
If a man is born-again but there is no change, he is only born-again. The new birth should be the beginning of something fresh and wonderful, but one must yield themselves to their new Father and a new life. If you're willing, God will train you up in the way to go to a life of righteousness.