Some folks think that once you become a Christian you must live a cloistered life like a monk. King Solomon had over a thousand wives and concubines and God blessed him richly in all things. How could God help Solomon in his sin? Because the law had not yet been given, so Solomon was not in sin. God is not offended when a husband and wife have sex, where do you think our children come from?
Genesis 18:12 So Sarah laughed to herself and said, “now that I am old and worn out, can I still enjoy sex? And besides, my husband is old too”.
God told Abraham when he was a hundred years old and Sarah was ninety that she would become pregnant and give birth to a son. This was not a virgin birth, Abraham and Sarah had to have sex in order to fulfill the will of God. They did not “fool around” just to have a kid, Sarah said she had pleasure with Abraham. God gives us opportunities to have legitimate pleasures and they are not sinful.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
God will honor whatever a husband and wife agree to, but He will judge those who include other people in their intimate lives. A husband and wife can give themselves to one another in sexual pleasure but God draws the line with infidelity. The bodies of the husband and wife belong to one another, they are not to be put on display for other people. A husband and wife dress to please one another and not the people outside of their covenant.
Psalm 16:11 You will show me the path of life: in your presence is fullness of joy; at your right hand there are pleasures for evermore.
These pleasures were once exclusive to our unrighteous flesh but now they agree with our spirit, soul and body. It gives us the Bible kind of pleasure when we please God and when He blesses us. When God has an active place in our lives we are not consumed with the pleasures of our flesh, but we are well satisfied. We need not abstain from the pleasures of the flesh, we simply need to prioritize and put our Lord first.
1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self control.
Intimacy between a husband and a wife is personal and a necessary part of their covenant. God does not ask us to abstain for any length of time because He knows the importance of such a beautiful gift. God does not call for His people to be prudes but to enjoy one another with Him as the Lord of the relationship.